What this page is for
These guides are for the woman who is trying to understand what happened to her. Who is looking for language for something she has been living with but could not quite name. Who keeps asking whether what happened to her was really abuse, or really that serious, or really not her fault.
The answer to all of those questions is in the guides below. Take what you need. Nobody needs to know you were here.
Financial abuse
When money was used to control you, limit you, or trap you in a situation you could not leave.
Coercive control
When the danger was not always visible but you were never fully free. When you managed someone else's emotions to stay safe.
Violation and your body
When your body was not treated as yours. When what happened left marks you were told not to speak about.
When it was someone close
When the danger came from someone who was supposed to love you. The particular complexity of that. The particular silence it requires.
"On 11 March 2021 I walked into Lewisham Police Station. Thirty-two years of silence ended not with a speech but with four words. Your secret was never yours to keep."
Victoria Taylor · The Tunnel Series
Free guides on abuse, control and violation
No email required. Take what you need.
What Financial Abuse Actually Looks Like Download PDF ↓ Your Body Was Not the Problem Download PDF ↓ When the Danger Was Someone Who Was Supposed to Love You Download PDF ↓ Strong Was Never a Compliment Download PDF ↓ Your Secret Was Never Yours to Keep Download PDF ↓If you need to speak to someone
National Domestic Abuse Helpline — 0808 2000 247 · Free · 24 hours
Rape Crisis England and Wales — 0808 500 2222 · Free · Confidential
Surviving Economic Abuse — survivingeconomicabuse.org
This workbook is not a substitute for professional therapeutic support. If you are working through trauma, please consider speaking with a qualified professional.
When you are ready to begin
The Tunnel was written for the woman who has been carrying something that has never been fully named. It walks all seven steps of the framework — from the moment of recognition through to liberation. You do not have to have it together to begin. You just have to be ready to look.
Victoria Taylor is London based and works with individuals, groups and organisations across the UK, internationally and online.
